Friday, November 21, 2014

Thoughts on the Violence in Israel this Week

A story about two yeshiva students assaulted in Israel is breaking as I write this post:  http://www.jpost.com/Arab-Israeli-Conflict/Two-stabbed-lightly-injured-in-Jerusalem-yeshiva-382496

In college, a Jewish Studies professor I had told the story of how he once attended a program at which spoke people who had saved Jews during World War II.  Each person was impressive, a real hero, but one made a distinct impression on my teacher.  Most of those who spoke connected their actions to a personal connection they had - they had Jewish friends, they worked for a Jewish business, etc.  One speaker though, a nun, said regarding her reason for helping, "I didn't really know any Jews, I didn't even particularly like them, but I felt like it was against my religion to see people suffer and be killed and so as a Christian, I had to act."

In this past week, I have been touched by the way we as Jews are so closely connected to each other.  How we do experience horrific attacks like that which took place in Har Nof this week as "personal" because in a way they really are.  To think that a bookstore owner I knew was lifelong friends with one of the murdered rabbis or that a congregant's family is married into the family of another's, is striking and makes the attack which took place during morning minyan and which I first learned of on my way to morning minyan, all the more personal.

But then I also think of Zidan Saif, the Israeli Druze policeman who was killed responding to the attack.  Whose sacrifice saved the lives of others.  Nobody I know knows him.  And yet here was an Israeli, a non-Jew dying to save the lives of Jews, to stop murderers, how can one's heart not go out to such a person?  And how can it not make us pause to consider that our response to such atrocities not be measured by how closely connected or similar we are to those attacked, but how dedicated we should be, and close we should feel to those who love life and truth and peace - no matter what they look like.  And how united and resolute we should be in battling those who are full of hate and violence and death.  

Tomorrow we will recite the prayer announcing a new Jewish month and in that prayer recite one of my favorite lines in the liturgy, chaverim kol yisrael, "all Israel are friends".  No doubt we will all think of how an attack on the Jewish community anywhere in the world feels like an attack on our own, home, communities - because it is.

But I also hope that as we pray those words we will think of something another of my teacher's said.  Rabbi Ira Stone taught that for the classical rabbis, "Israel" didn't so much refer to a Jew, but to a good, a righteous person.  Someone who you admired.  Someone who you sought to become.  

With that meaning in mind, let us pray that  those in the world who aspire to be part of that definition of the House of Israel, all those who are righteous and just, can learn to work together, in a friendship built on their shared values and beliefs, to protect the innocent and stop those who seek to do evil, and make the world the place God wants it to be.   

Shabbat Shalom,

Rabbi Aaron Benson

Wednesday, August 20, 2014

All Five Lessons About Israel

Please find here the Five Lessons I presented about Israel at last Friday's Lech Lecha Service for high school seniors heading off to college:

#1:  Israel Teaches You What College Should Teach You, Namely, How to Think:

One of the goals of higher education is to impart to students critical thinking skills.  Not so much to learn about a particular topic, but to "learn to learn."  To recognize bias, slant, agendas, poor logic, the influence of one's point of view or personal experiences - all these and much more the university student should come to recognize when doing research into a particular subject.  Learning how to learn and thinking about how to think really are great lessons for everyone.
What goes on about Israel when you're at college, well it could be a graduate seminar in how to learn to learn or think of thinking.  While it may be fairly easy for most Jewish students to come to the conclusion, "what I've heard must just be the 'Jewish' version of things since I'm Jewish," I don't know how clear it will be to them that even if that is so, it doesn't mean that what you know or believe is wrong and that someone just because they are called "professor" or they are some articulate protester on the quad or it was written some well-funded campaign against "Israeli apartheid" that that makes what you're hearing "the truth".  There is a world of bias and of ignorance out there that goes beyond even legitimate criticism of Israel - and you must be prepared to search for it and recognize it. 
Asking yourself, "why does this person/class/article/etc. say this?" is the first lesson in learning to learn.  It is also my first lesson about Israel.

#2  Learn the Facts to Know for Yourself – You’re Unlikely to Convert Anyone and Shouting is only so Cathartic:

Did you know that over 1.5 million Arabs are citizens of Israel?  That in addition to Muslims there are Christians and Druze and other minorities groups in Israel whose rights are protected, who serve in the military and are represented in the Knesset?  And that along Iran, one of the few Muslim (though not an Arab) countries with Jews in its parliament – the Arabs in Knesset need not pass any kind of loyalty exam and can be openly critical if not hostile of their government.  
Healthcare, education for women, leadership in technology, willingness to send medical aid around the world including to countries without friendly ties to it – there are many, many things about Israel one should take time to know.  You may find yourself whether you like it or not acting as a representative for Israel, and I certainly hope that an attachment to Israel will have intrinsic value you to you also.
But don’t know about these things – that for example the IDF goes to pains to warn civilians of impending attacks in Gaza so they can flee – don’t know about this to try to “win” any arguments with people who attack Israel.  Or at least, don’t only know it for that reason. 
Sadly today, the number of people open to having their minds changed when it comes to such hot-button issues as this seems to be getting smaller and smaller.  So while your uninformed friends may be one thing, the Palestinian Student Association protesters may be another. 
And just as you’re not necessarily going to change a lot of minds with the facts, you shouldn’t use them to shout back at those shouting at you either – be proud to be Jewish but also be willing to be an example of how Jews can and do rise above against what tend to be publicity stunts and designed to get “the Jews” to act up.  Stage your own protests, stay safe, but don’t be baited.  – Arab homework example.

Number 3 – Criticizing Israel, Anti-Israel and Anti-Semitism, when they are different and when they are the same:

I tend to be sort of old-fashioned and tend to be in the school that whoever is in charge in Israel and whatever they are doing, I’m probably going to work to take a supportive stance of that policy, at least in public. 
But that attitude within the Jewish community is, in some ways, old-fashioned.  As Jews, there have always been people who have felt comfortable, and perhaps somewhat more among younger people today, to be open in criticizing Israel. 
Let me say, that at least to me, you can be a good Jew and a good Zionist (supporter of Israel as a Jewish state) and still disagree, a little or a lot, quietly or loudly with Israel.
But that kind of criticism is different than being openly anti-Israel.  And of course in the modern world, you can of course choose to be anti-Israel altogether, but I think if you’ve followed steps 1 and 2, that shouldn’t be too likely. 
But those who will attack Israel are often, though again, you have to investigate, harboring not just criticisms of Israel, but a true anti-Israel bias.  Republicans may not like Obama and Democrats may not like the House right now – but they all pretty much want our government to continue and for there to be a United States.
Anti-Israel bias is a bias that the country, in some essential way, really shouldn't exist.  And if you think about it, there are very few countries that engender that level of hatred – particularly from more removed third parties.  If you were Irish 50 years ago, you may have had strong feelings about Britain, but in America, even if you sympathized with the Irish, you probably didn't feel it necessary to call for the destruction of the UK, or to say everything else about the UK was flawed.  
But all too often, we don’t hear protesters and others arguing – Israel needs a different government or a different policy towards the Palestinians – and then calling it a day – too often it goes beyond that.
And very often when it does go beyond that, it can be motivated by Antisemitism  Which a topic much bigger than I plan to address tonight, but is, suffice it to say, a problem with Jews.  In the 21st century it may look and feel different than it did in say the 12th, but that is often what is beyond the type of “nothing is right with Israel” attitude you may encounter from protesters 
If you follow steps 1 and 2, you might have gotten to step 3 anyway, but please allow me to have articulated such an important step.

#4 – Peoplehood, Religion, and Identity are “Mysterious” – So Go Visit Israel and See What Happens:

You can’t explain what it feels to be a Jew, or why being Jewish is important, or why Israel is important to the Jews, the same way I can explain why hydrogen is important to water or DNA is important to you being a ginger.  On some level, such things as religion, ethnicity, peoplehood, statehood – these things are constructs of people and not “hard” facts.  That is definitely the case.  They are messier and sloppier, but they are, like falling in love or having a favorite team – transformative and real.  Or to put it all another way, they are mysterious. 
And when it comes to mysteries, some things can’t be explained.  This in part goes back to my number 2, you can’t explain it to people sometimes.
But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t open yourself up to the possibilities that can come along with such a mysterious part to your identity.
And nothing will do more for it than to visit Israel for yourself.  They call it the Holy Land which already sounds mysterious and it is.  You’ll get a lot out of being there that may speak to you as a Jew and as a person in ways nothing else has before.  You may learn things that truly shape your outlook on life.  You may become very protective of “your” favorite falafel guy on Ben Yehuda Street.  And that’s as it should be.
So embrace the mystery of the connection as real and true and important and at the same time mysterious.  And visit Israel and see what happens.  We probably even have some money to give you if you do.

#5 Be a Jew for Yourself, but know that being one connects you to all other Jews:

I remember sitting in the student union one day and overhearing a guy I had known from Hillel sitting at a table of people forming some group that must have been some kind of multicultural group for harmony and breaking down barriers.  And someone suggested that they begin by saying what their backgrounds were.  So this one was from Africa and this one was African American, this one from the Chicago suburbs and basically raised Protestant, etc.  Yet when they got to the Jewish guy – he didn’t want to say, arguing, if they all felt being multicultural was the most important thing, what did it matter their backgrounds?
I thought – only the Jew would argue like that!  He was representing himself even as he wasn’t! 
And that is my final lesson.  You are unlikely to ever truly avoid being Jewish no matter what you do, what you become, who you love, etc. 
And as such, your choices, for mysterious reasons, for reasons beyond your control, will on some level always be Jewish choices.
I challenge you to figure out how you can both be individuals, to really be able to blossom into the adults that we all are rooting for you to become, and at the same time to do so knowing that you will remain always inextricably linked to us and Jews everywhere and even to Israel. 
A truly mature adult will embrace that reality and seek to find ways to incorporate it as part of the whole of their identity.
I pray you will, and that you will only for blessings and success.


Shabbat Shalom

Friday, August 15, 2014

5 Lessons About Israel - Tonight at Services, 8pm

As part of our Lech Lecha service, I will speak about 5 Lessons About Israel - addressed to our graduating high school seniors and all of us.

Here are the Lessons.  I hope you'll come and hear the talk:

1.  Israel Teaches You What College Should - How to Think.

2.  Learn the Facts, but for Yourself.  You're Unlikely to Convert Anyone and Screaming is only so Cathartic.

3.  Know the Difference Between Criticizing Israel, Anti-Israel and Antisemitism.

4.  Peoplehood, Religion, and Identity are Mysterious, So Visit Israel and See What Happens.

5.  Be a Jew for Yourself, But Know It Means We're Always All Connected.

Friday, August 8, 2014

5 Lessons about Israel, #1

Next Friday night, August 15th, at 8pm, North Shore Jewish Center will host its annual Lech Lecha (Go Forth) Shabbat for graduating high school seniors in our community.  All seniors are invited to attend and will be recognized during our services.

Also that night, I will speak about a topic of importance to Jewish college students, 5 Lessons about Israel.  Five things I think we should all remember about the Jewish Homeland.  Five things that Jews on campus might find particularly helpful.  As a vorspeis, here is #1:

Five Things about Israel, #1:  Israel Teaches You What College Should Teach You, Namely, How to Think:

One of the goals of higher education is to impart to students critical thinking skills.  Not so much to learn about a particular topic, but to "learn to learn."  To recognize bias, slant, agendas, poor logic, the influence of one's point of view or personal experiences - all these and much more the university student should come to recognize when doing research into a particular subject.  Learning how to learn and thinking about how to think really are great lessons for everyone.

What goes on about Israel when you're at college, well it could be a graduate seminar in how to learn to learn or think of thinking.  While it may be fairly easy for most Jewish students to come to the conclusion, "what I've heard must just be the 'Jewish' version of things since I'm Jewish," I don't know how clear it will be to them that even if that is so, it doesn't mean that what you know or believe is wrong and that someone just because they are called "professor" or they are some articulate protester on the quad or it was written some well-funded campaign against "Israeli apartheid" that that makes what you're hearing "the truth".  There is a world of bias and of ignorance out there that goes beyond even legitimate criticism of Israel - and you must be prepared to search for it and recognize it.

Asking yourself, "why does this person/class/article/etc. say this?" is the first lesson in learning to learn.  It is also my first lesson about Israel.

For this one and the other four, join us at NSJC next Friday the 15th at 8pm.

Shabbat Shalom,

Rabbi Aaron Benson



Thursday, July 31, 2014

Observe Tisha b'Av Monday, August 4th and Tuesday August 5th

George Washington says it would be good for you to engage in a day of "fasting, humiliation, and prayer."

While I think the meaning of "humiliation" may have changed slightly since 1779, it has nevertheless been a part of American history and civic practice down to our own times to observe national days of reflection and introspection, particularly when the country is faced with difficult challenges, such as in Washington's time when the country faced the difficult challenge of becoming a country!

This American tradition comes out of our shared Judeo-Christian heritage.  It was commonplace in biblical times and later for Jews to observe days of fasting and prayer.  Of course we know about commanded days such as Yom Kippur, but throughout Jewish history, given communities have declared their own days of fasting in the face of trouble.  We see evidence of this in medieval Spain and in Eastern Europe and during the 20th century also.  Some of these fast days never caught on beyond their local, historical context (for example, most communities today no longer observe the 13th or 20th of Sivan as a fast day in memory of the massacres carried out by the cossack, Chelminitski in 17th century Poland), but others are universally accepted and treated as required.

Tisha b'Av, the 9th of Av, is such a Fast Day.  It is observed in memory of the destruction of both the First and Second Temples and additionally commemorates the day the twelve spies came back with their bad report on the land of Israel during the Exodus, the defeat of the Bar Kokhba rebellion against the Romans in 132-35CE, as well as the expulsions of Jews from England and Spain during the Middle Ages and other events.  Some communities use the day as of memorial for the Holocaust also.

It is a full day fast, lasting from evening to evening.  One is also forbidden to wear leather, clean or adorn oneself beyond what is required for hygiene, or engage in marital relations.  It is also customary to come to synagogue and hear the book of Lamentations read, usually done while sitting on the floor or low benches and with the room dimly lit.  Some congregations will dress the Ark or bimah in black crepe for the occasion and otherwise denote the solemnity of the day.  Nevertheless, as a rabbinically required holiday, one can use electricity, work, drive, etc., though care should be given to avoid any kind of festivities or any other enjoyable activities that day.

This year, it is critical, going back to our First President's decree, to observe this year's Tisha b'Av as a day for reflection and re-dedication to the modern state of Israel and our fellow Jews whose lives are at risk there today.  I encourage all members of our community to add to their observance of the fast day this year by also designating funds for charity in support of Israel and otherwise working to advocate for our homeland.

The rabbis tell us that the Temple was destroyed because of senseless hatred amongst the Jews.  Tisha b'Av should be a yearly reminder to us to keep strong our bonds with Israel and all Jews and remain a strong and secure community.

Wishing you an easy fast,

Rabbi Benson

Friday, July 25, 2014

Read This: Left-Wing Rabbi Defends Israel

Rabbi Menachem Creditor is a rabbi whose work and convictions I admire though I tend to disagree with him on many things.  This piece he wrote is not one of those things.  Impressive when any of us can look at a situation and not just be bound by our past convictions or others' expectations of us:

"I'm Done Apologizing for Israel"
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/rabbi-menachem-creditor/im-done-apologizing-for-i_b_5606650.html

Shabbat Shalom,

Rabbi Aaron Benson

Friday, May 16, 2014

Lag b'Omer Celebration this Sunday!

Join Jews from all around Suffolk County in celebrating Lag b'Omer at the Jewish Springfest 2014.  The first event sponsored by the Eastern Long Island Jewish Alliance (ELIJA).  It has been great working with so many motivated leaders from our larger Jewish community on this event.  Please read more about it in this article from the Jewish Week:
http://www.thejewishweek.com/news/new-york/suffolk-jewry-joining-forces-lag-bomer

Or this article in Newsday:
http://www.newsday.com/long-island/nassau/jewish-groups-work-to-unite-fight-membership-decline-1.7911755

Hope to see you there,

Rabbi Aaron Benson
Event Co-Chair