Thursday, August 23, 2018

Parshat Ki Tetsei - Finding Lost Relationships


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There is a beautiful lesson in our Torah portion, coming from the rule that teaches us we must help our friend’s stray animals if we see them wandering off, lo tireh et shor achicha o et seh’oh nidachim, v’hitalamta mehem, hashev t’shivem l’achicha – don’t see your brother’s ox or sheep go astray and hide from it, surely you will return them to your brother.”

The Rabbis note that here in the Torah, we speak of the missing animal of a friend of ours, it even says, brother.  Earlier in the Torah we are told much the same thing, but there, we are told it about our enemy and his missing animal.

So what gives?  The Rabbis say, it is quoted like this, one time saying enemy, the other friend, in order to teach us that in taking on the obligation of returning the animal, we should further seek to undo whatever stands between us and make our one-time enemy our friend.

One who fulfills the mitzvah of returning the lost animal, gains the opportunity to return something else that was lost also, the broken relationship can be returned to how it was before.  While we may not have so much opportunity for returning lost animals these days, the chance to help someone in need can often be just the medicine necessary to heal a hurt relationship, I know I have found that to be the case in my rabbinic work and I suspect others of you might have as well.  You pay the shivah visit or you say “shabbat shalom” to that one person and suddenly, they aren’t so bad anymore, and whatever was wrong between you starts to disappear. 

So, don’t let the oxen be what throw you off from learning the lesson here.  Had the Torah been written today I’m sure it would have said “smart phone” instead.  The lesson is the same; we can restore what is lost in our relationships if we remain willing to respond to the needs of others, whoever they may be. 


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